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Is it to slowly put distance between you guys before he has a chance to ask you out?

What about the bro-zone technique, they “Hey bro, you’re such a great FRIEND” ?

Or just flat out telling him that you’re not interested in anything more if that’s what he’s thinking?

Or does that make you seem too arrogant?

Yet, I’m thinking that last option is the least sneaky way to go. It’s the most honest, clear-cut and straight up. But.. I don’t want things to be awkward. I wanna stay friends with him.

I know, I know, how many times have you heard that one? But this guy is someone from work and I don’t talk to a lot of people from work. But him, I talk to because he’s fun and easy to talk to.

So I don’t wanna do this in a way that’s just going to push him away completely.

But I also know that I don’t want whatever he’s thinking in his head. And I definitely do not want to lead him on although naturally, until I make it clear to him that I don’t want this, that is kind of what I’m doing..

Ugh, the struggle.

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Like especially if it’s a difference between less than 18, and 18 and up?

Yeah, I’m pretty sure the phrase, “Age is but a number” hasn’t been used since the times of Romeo and Juliet. And even that was pretty insane.

So there’s a guy. Of course there’s a guy. And he’s older. Which is why I’m talking about age.

Keep in mind, I’m only 16. And he’s.. 19. Wasn’t there a rule somewhere that a 3 year age difference isn’t that bad?

I don’t know, but either way I’m like 99.9% sure that getting involved with this guy is definitely not a good idea.

Not that anything will happen. Or is even about to happen. I don’t even like him like that. I don’t think so. He’s just fun to talk and he’s a cool guy and all. But he’s like lingering around me. I don’t know what that’s all about.

Sometimes thing’s get a tad bit flirty. I usually don’t mind. It’s fun actually.

But yeah, even if I were to catch feelings for him, I would steer clear.

!6, 19, probably not a good match.

But anyways, what do you guy’s think about relationships with older guys? I know some people say that if he’s a certain number of years older than you, he might as well be your babysitter not your boyfriend.

But what’s your opinion?

I doubt anything is going to happen between me and 19 year old but the topic of age is interesting.

Comment below, I’d love to hear your thoughts!

So recently a friend of mine was like “A girl in your AP Biology class is so hot.”

And I was thinking, “Who is he talking about? Everybody is smart in my class, there’s no one who dresses like a slut.”

Forgive me if my thoughts are too blunt or cruel, but you must understand, these were my thoughts, they came automatically, and unfortunately honestly.

Later, my friend told me the name of the girl he thoughts was “hot”. I was like “Oh, her? She’s pretty,”

And he goes, “Yeah, that’s what I said,”

I rolled my eyes and said, “No, you said she was hot.”

He looks at me with a dumbstruck face. “Isn’t that the same thing?”

So I sighed and explained to him the difference:

No, they are not the same thing. When guys call girl’s “hot” it’s usually because they have a “hot body”. As in, tiny waist, big breasts, and a high round butt.

Pretty would be a pretty face- natrually pretty- good features that don’t need a hot body.

So no, my friend, they are not the same thing.

In fact, calling a pretty girl “hot” is pretty much an insult. Pretty girls don’t need a “hot body” because they are pretty. Hot girls are usually not very pretty by the time guys have dragged their eyes up to their face from their body. And that’s why they work so hard to flash off their “hot body”.

Duh.

Don’t you just love knowing people like to be around you?

Having someone who you know you can make laugh when you want feels so amazing.

I have this friend, and honestly, I think I have written quite a few posts about this guy.

But I still won’t tell who.

And he’s a friend. And awesome friend. And he thinks of me as an awesome friend.

And I know this because he tells me that he likes talking to me because I give him realistic advice and I get people in a good mood.

Now isn’t that a nice thing to hear?

And when we’re out with friends and I comment something, joke around, or casually diss someone, he backs me up saying that if I said it, it must be right because I am apparently the “smartest person he knows.”

Well, that could also mean that he hangs out with a lot of idiots..

But overall, I took it as a compliment.

And I just love talking to him because I can tease him and make fun of him and he takes it so well. And he’s so fun to be with and light to talk to.

And if I had to write a paper on him, I could write the best essay out there and go on and on about him.

Because the thing about him is that he’s so unique and there’s really no one else in the world like him.

And I was actually chatting with him a few minutes ago.

Had no idea how to start the conversation. So I sent him a picture of a cat sleeping and said, “You, when it’s time for school.” (He is often an hour late to school because of over sleeping).

And just like that, the conversation has started.

He sends me back a picture of a pissed of cat and says, “Hahaha, You when I know something is wrong with you.”

This is an insider between us. All through out last year, I had random days where I had terrible days and the slightest of things would mess up my mood for the day.

I was pretty good at hiding it from other people (or maybe it’s that nobody really cared to ask what’s wrong) but as soon as I saw HIM he would be like “What’s wrong?”

And it got frustrating after a while, because he could tell so easily and I just couldn’t hide a single thing from him because he noticed every goddamn thing.

And he was proud of the fact too.

So that’s how our conversation started today after a while of not talking to each other due to our busy lives.

And our conversation just flows.

I tell him, “Ugh, 5 seconds into the conversation and you’ve already managed to annoy me,” he tells me, “Hahaha, It’s a gift, and what’s up?”

And so it goes.

And neither will dating four girls at a time for that matter.

So I know a few homosexual guys in my school. And they know they’re homosexual. I know they’re homosexual. I think EVERYBODY know’s they’re homosexual.

But for some reason, they like to live in this bubble where they want to pretend they’re not and hope everyone else will just go along with it.

One of these guys  is my friend. And he told me last year that he was gay.

And I thought, ‘Okay, well, not surprising, I’ve been suspecting that for a while now’.

What I think I actually told him was, “That’s fine, accept yourself, and everyone will accept you.”

Which I thought was a pretty nice thing to say.

Anyways, these days, he’s completely ignoring his orientation. He plunged himself into religious activities and is telling himself and others that homosexuality is wrong, disgusting, etc.

And now, he’s even making crude comments about girls!

My friend, who was once so respectful, and so polite, is now making remarks about a girl’s sexy ass and fine body even though when he says he it, he might as well be talking about the weather, that’s how UN-excited he sounds when he says it.

And you know, being his friend and all, I tried to talk some sense into him, saying that maybe he should get over himself and admit what he is and just take himself for who he is and all.

And he accused me of being so focused that he’s one thing and he doesn’t have to be something that he doesn’t want to be.

-Insert me throwing my hands up in the air-

Fine. Frankly, it doesn’t make a difference to me whether he prefers a penis or a vagina. But he can keep his awkward and pathetic crude comments to himself.

Oh, and another one.

This guy, I don’t know him too well, he’s like a friend of a friend.

Acts gay, talks to guys a lot, GIGGLES, and might as well just write on his forehead that he’s gay.

(and he’s actually kind of cute..)

And he has like 4 different girlfriends in 4 different schools.

Well, according to the rumors (which I know I shouldn’t believe but imagine it was true anyways?)

Now why would a gay guy date four girls at once?

To convince himself he’s not gay.

Duhh.

Not Meant To Be

Didn’t see it coming

Nor did I even suspect it

We were puzzle pieces

Designed to fit

I had it all planned out

I put the words into his mouth

But he had other plans

That he forgot to inform me about

Jumping off with eyes wide open

I didn’t think my parachute would fail me

But he spoke the wrong words

And stepped back to let me see

See that all this time, I was fooled

See that he is not who I thought he was

See that I could not depend on fate to work it all out

See that all we might have ever had was lost

We were more

I knew it and so did he

But he backtracked at the last minute

Walked away and left me

My friends tell me that it wasn’t meant to be

I told myself it wasn’t meant to be

But it was once meant to be

Until he chose her over me

A couple of months go, a guy rejected me after weeks of flirting with me and dropping endless hints.

Well, I wouldn’t say rejected exactly, just that I liked him and decided to clue him in about that and set me straight letting me know that the past flirty signs he’d been giving were nothing, just harmless little friendly things.

So I let it go, it took some time, but I got over it. And we were friends this whole time, except the time when I got annoyed at him or when I realized some bad things about him that I hadn’t cared to notice before.

And today, well I don’t know what to say, we were friends just like we’ve been for the last four or five months.

And out of nowhere, he just decides to start slipping moves on me.

Why? Gee, I don’t know, did his other options bail on him?

Did he realize that all those other girls weren’t as much fun and weren’t going to stick around?

Or maybe, maybe, and I’m just shooting out ideas here, maybe he thinks he can just play a harmless little flirting game with me.

Maybe its his sick idea of messing with my head because he’s bored.

Well I’ve got something to tell you, bud: “I’m not feeling it!”

Yeah that’s right, I don’t feel it and he can’t get into my head because the feeling  just isn’t there.

Just a couple months ago, I felt butterflies fluttering around me stomach when his hands came near my face or my waist.

Now if he’s simply breathing too close, I feel a different feeling in my stomach.

And sick twisted uncomfortable feeling. A feeling that tells me that I know exactly what he’s up to and it’s just a little too late because I’m not interested anymore!

And he just came on strong out of nowhere, finding any and every excuse to call me cute or adorable, pinching my cheeks, squeezing my stomach, touching my waist, anything!

And I promise you, I didn’t give him encouragements.

I stayed friendly- as much friendly as a friend should stay.

And when he came too close I backed away.

I don’t get if he actually thinks he’s getting somewhere with this. Because he’s not.

I’m a romantic faithful fantasy happy ending kind of girl. I can’t put with his moving- on- and- flirting- with- the- next- girl- when- he- gets- bored- ways.

I only wanted to be his friend after everything happened.

Even with his flaws, his phony acts, the things I don’t like about him, I accept that there’s always going to be some things I don’t like about everybody.

But I wanted to be his close friend, always have and always will, I think.

But he always wants to get into my head, mess everything up, and walk away without cleaning up the mess he made.